Maintaining a healthy relationship in these uncertain times
In these unprecedented times, relationships are put to the ultimate test. As we are rediscovering ourselves and navigating this uncharted territory, elements in the relationship that were not initially overt are now beginning to surface as you truly don’t get to know your partner at the onset of the relationship.
Unresolved issues will definitely arise
Let me put it in perspective, a lot of people in relationships nowadays don’t really know each other. We live in a world of instant gratification, people are rushing into relationships without taking time to develop deeper connections. The reason why some relationships still succeed is due to the fact that we are busy throughout the day and don’t have the opportunity to spend as much time with our partner as we perceive. We usually only spend significant time with our partners on vacations or when there are no other “distractions” like work and other responsibilities. On an average day, you might see your partner for maybe a total of 5 hours, the hour when you wake up and then the other four hours after you come back from work unless you work together and then that’s a little much.
"What I am trying to say is, you have never been forced to spend this much time with your partner. Hence, you’re beginning to really learn who your partner truly is whether that be good or bad."
Another underlying reason for the demise of relationships and marriages is the lack of communication when it comes to goal-setting within the relationship. Defining a common goal is crucial to the substance and longevity of the relationship as it serves as the roadmap. Couples who have not mutually instilled concrete goals are now realizing they want other things. You and your partner should identify together what you plan to achieve from this relationship, and ensure you’re on the same wavelength before committing. Whether that’s companionship, financial growth, starting a family, it must be identified and agreed upon. Conflict is inevitable when you and your partner aren’t fully aligned on each other's values and intended goals as a unit which during this time is subject to change.
How to use this time and add value into the relationship
During this time, you and your partner should identify together what you plan to achieve from this relationship, and ensure you’re on the same wavelength before committing. Whether that’s companionship, financial growth, starting a family, it must be identified and agreed upon. Conflict is inevitable when you and your partner aren’t fully aligned on each other's values and intended goals as a unit which during this time is subject to change.
This is an invaluable time to reflect, realign, and revaluate when it comes to the overarching goals of the relationship, but also taking the time to get to know each other all over again. Do activities that you've always wanted to do together. That may involve watching a movie, trying a new hobby, etc. Another great thing you can bring into the relationship is the introduction of meditation and accessing your center leading you and your partner to become more self-aware. This is a journey of growth that you and your partner can embark on together. The main goal of this quarantine should be to learn how to accept your partner’s flaws without judgment. Once you can, then you begin developing a new relationship full of communication and love. Ultimately, when true growth begins.
"This is a once in a lifetime opportunity to really get to know your partner on such a deeper level. If you can make it through this then you can most likely make it through anything!”
Good luck during this time! If any of you have any questions, please leave a comment down below! I would also love to hear back from your personal experience and recommend so new perspective that you gained from this whole experience.
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