What getting "ghosted" actually means?
The term “ghosted” is becoming more and more accepted in the world of dating. Getting “ghosted” means that someone ignored you completely or ‘magically’ fell off the face of the Earth engaging in conversation. If this sounds familiar then you most likely got “ghosted”. In my opinion, when someone ghosts another person, it shows me a sign of insecurity. The reason why ghosting people show a lack of confidence is because the individual does not have the courage to express how they genuinely feel about the situation. This fear of confrontation allows them to make the executive decision and completely ignore the issue at hand which can cause a lot of hurt and pain to the person getting ghosted.
"Personally, I appreciate the more upfront approach. Honesty is the best policy in my opinion and if someone doesn’t have the courage to be authentic and express themselves to you then it’s all for the best. Even though this is how many should view getting ghosted, unfortunately, that’s not the case."
The pain that comes with it!
The pain of getting ghosted stems from the idea of getting emotionally rejected. When someone gets ghosted, the emotions that come up are usually feelings of inadequacy. People will feel this pain of not being enough and possibly even humiliated. When in reality, it should be the complete opposite. When you get ghosted, it usually has nothing to do with you (unless it does and you’ve been spamming this person for weeks after they told you they weren’t interested. Then you deserve it.) and everything to do with the other person. We allow others to project their own insecurities on to us and make us believe that they are our own doings. If someone doesn’t respond, don’t resent them, just take that as an answer and move forward. The longer you dwell on it the more pain you'll feel.
Actually dealing with it!
The best way to deal with getting ghosted is to accept it at face value. The fact that they ghosted you is all the closure you need. It might not be the way you wanted it, but you still got it. On the bright side, if the person didn’t have enough respect by confronting you head-on, were they really worth it in the end? The sooner you let go, the sooner you’ll begin to heal from it.
Have you ever been "ghosted" or "ghosted" someone? Let us know in the comments below! I’d love to hear some of your feedback about the topic!